Wednesday, 27 January 2016

Mummy, there's a Monster!!!

About a month or so after we moved into our new place and Alfie started at his new nursery something changed. Suddenly we were in this bigger house, with different noises, lots of places to hide and at times a little creaky (and creepy). It's not an old house, just 10 years old but the area where we live is pitch black at night and sooo quiet so any noises can be heard and if I'm on my own particularly amplified! I can see why a three year old's imagination could run wild with all of these new things happening in his life.

Since Alfie has been at his new nursery his imagination has been in over drive, it's wonderful to see, he loves to play shops, loves to be a chef in his kitchen, mimic myself and hubby and makes some bizarre funny voices chatting away in them at times. However as his imagination grows so do the figments of it (at least I think they're figments..... at least I hope so!). 

In the 3 1/2 years of his little life he's never been particularly scared or overly anxious about many situations but lately he's been a right little monkey creeping not only himself out but me! 


Take yesterday for example........

Alfie: 'Mummy!!!! Mummmmyyyyyyyy!!''

Me: 'Yes Alf'

Alfie: 'Can you see it?'

Me: 'See what?'

Alfie: *whispering* 'The monster......'

Me: ' Nope I don't see it, where?'

Alfie: 'There....over there......see?? Come, I'll show you....., can you hear it?'

Me:'Ermmmm no.....show me.....'

I then get taken to the cupboard under the stairs and Alfie pointing persistently to the back of the bloody cupboard! This has happened a few times now in various different places and I have to admit it's started to creep me out a bit. Obviously I'd like to point out that I don't believe in monsters but I do believe in ghosts/spirits and now I'm like is this blooming house haunted or something or is literally my son and his imagination increasing. 

I've always made sure that he feels safe and I don't want him to become scared of these 'monsters', especially if it involves  them being in his bedroom. I try to make sure he still feels safe in there and we fill his room with lots of teddies that he's chosen, his gro light emits a gentle glow and he knows exactly where we are if he needs us in the night. There has only been the one occasion up till now, just the other week where we had to look under his bed for a monster but we tried to nip that in the bud quite quickly so that we don't start having issues with monsters in his room. I think it's very important that we allow him to use his imagination freely but not to the point that it runs away with him and he becomes scared of monsters or similar that he's created. If this all goes to pot I have my 'monster spray' handy to expel said monsters from his room!

So I'm not really sure what's going on but I'm just going to put it down to his development, because at the moment he is coming on in leaps and bounds and as long as it keeps being a big game to him then I'm happy!


I have to say I love playing with him when he's in role play mode (plus it means I get to be a big kid and play with toys, hehe), it's so funny to listen to him and watch him, he clearly spends a whole load of time observing us (very apparent recently) as I see him acting very much like Adi and sometimes me (ahem, no idea who this sounds like......'Mummy I am CROSS with YOU!'). Mostly it's Adi though that he likes to mimic, most days he will put a head set  on and pretend to be on a very important call like Daddy! He likes to pretend to be getting ready for work, want to go on his bike and cycle to the train station, obviously this is quite hard to role play with him but I have had some amusing pretend real phone calls with him and him informing me of all the work he has to get done. Bless him, the threenage years might be hard but they are wonderful in the terms of communication and fun. Love him.

Anyone else have a monster or 2 in there house? 


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37 comments:

  1. Bless him! Our little miss is obsessed with all things spooky and has been since Halloween. She would currently be thrilled to have a monster under her bed. Me however? Not so much! Love the idea of monster spray. I'll keep that one on reserve.

    Thank you for hosting xx
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  2. I used to mind a little boy back when I was in my late teens and he lived in really old and HUGE house, he used to say to me 'can't you see the person in the hall?' Oh my gosh I was so creeped out. One weekend the family went away and asked my partner and I to housesit, I heard so many noises, I'm not saying it was haunted I'm not sure I believe but we were both scared! #bestandworst

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  3. We haven't got to the monster stage yet but BB certainly likes to pretend play! #bestandworst

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  4. I felt exactly the same in my new home and I am still getting use to all the sounds that come with living in a bigger house. Bless him. I do get freaked out when my daughter constantly points at her door in her room and says "whats that? awww baby"...I wonder if we have visitors? Hmmm. Not sure how I feel about that...I am hoping she doesn't think its a monster though. Haha. Thank you for hosting this week and good luck with finding those monsters! xxx

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  5. I think the monsters are probably part of the wider development stage along with the imaginative play. He is still in that stage where they haven't quite distinguished between reality and imagination. Let's hope those monsters start to settle down soon and leave you in peace! #bestandworst

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  6. Oh my goodness...this sounds very familiar! Their imagination is incredible, isn't it... I am constantly having to hide under the covers from an imaginary monster or dinosaur. My daughter always says it with a smile and some excitement so not too worried...think it's very normal but I am sure being a spooky house can really add to it! Thanks for hosting #bestandworst

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  7. Gosh I bet that's a tough stage and I can totally understand why it makes you feel a bit on edge thinking about monsters in the house! I'm afraid I haven't got any advice to offer, but it sounds like you're already doing a great job of managing it. There's always something to be managed isn't there haha!

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  8. I'm not at this stage yet with my two but I know my older brother had an imaginary friend called Jake. At least my mum hoped he was in amaginary friend! Apparantly he was a man with a bald head. As you can imagine my mum was very freaked out by the whole thing. So she went out and got him a cat and named him Jake. He never mentioned the man with the bald head after that. Who knows if the man with the bald head was an imaginary friend or a spirit who just doesn't like cats?

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  9. Kids are amazing and I love their imagination. But I might get a little freaked out :) We live in a house from 1896 and when Caspian was younger he would stop feeding, turn his head, look up (at someone?!) and smile. At least he was smiling heh heh. So let's see who he comes across as he gets older ;) #bestandworst

    Nadia - ScandiMummy x

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  10. My daughter's not at that stage yet, but my friend's toddler once started waving at no one had she got really freaked out - a oste, perhaps? #bestandworst

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  11. our oldest used to think her old house was haunted when she was little. I'm not completely convinced that it wasn't

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  12. We are at the monster stage yet though I'm sure it is on its way. I love that he tell you he's cross with you. My daughter has started saying 'We're running late' and 'In two minutes' ... there's no way she got those phrases from me :) #BestAndWorst

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  13. We have had this quite a bit recently from our 3 year old too. Their imaginations just go crazy and I find Sam is having more vivid dreams too #bestandworst xx

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  14. I love how kids minds work. In the blink of an eye they are in a different world :) I think most kids go through the seeing things phase, maybe it's real, maybe it isn't, but as long as it's not causing him too much distress, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Thanks for hosting #bestandworst
    Debbie

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  15. Oh bless him! We've had monsters mentioned but not quite got to the point of seeing them yet. I was going to mention 'monster spray' but I see you're already on top of that!
    We have the copying stage. I'm often told to sit on the naughty step. Although I'm never exactly sure what I've done

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  16. Very cute - and very familiar. I've spotted my daughter giving her stuffed toys a very stern talking to. Babbit, have you got your listening ears on? ;) Fortunately we also have a cookie monster, who is obviously a friendly monster, and is very useful at looking after her if there might be other monsters in her room! #bestandworst

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  17. Yes we have some worries about monsters sometimes! It is a bit freaky but I'm sure just a phase and part of development. Alfie sounds so cute and all the copying of Adi is brill! xx #bestandworst

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  18. Awww Bless him! He looks adorable and cute! I think this is the age where they start to create loads of imaginations... my 2 yr old is the same, I hear her a lot of times talking to herself or her dolls. #bestandworst

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  19. We definitely went through a phase like this...thanks to watching Monsters Inc! Seemed like such a good idea at the time lol xx #bestandworst

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  20. Oh my goodness you are brave. I'd be like...oh a Monster, really? Lets just wait for Daddy to home and double check. Until then would you like a nutritional just for babies chocolate biscotti? Mummy will have one too with a brew and we will just hide in your room until Daddys home. Ok? lol.

    Renee @peonieandme #bestandworst

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  21. Aw he's gorgeous! I can see why you might be a bit creeped out over the monsters, especially if you're in a new house and it's a bit creaky! x bestandworst

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  22. Oh no, I'd start to be a bit freaked out too. We've just had to take down a Venetian mask in the house as my daughter was getting scared with that unfortunately. No talk of monsters or other things yet though thankfully! #bestandworst

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  23. Fascinating! Our eldest is a similar age and has also started seeing dinosaurs and bears in her room. She's also getting out of bed at 5am every morning and insisting in coming into our room (on a mattress, not our bed. We're worried we won't get her out again!!). Must be a stage. Good luck dealing with it and thanks fo hosting #bestandworst

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  24. The only monster in our house at the moment is our toddler who's favourite thing is to be a monster...I have a feeling this will soon transfer to being scared of external monsters! I would be completely rattled, sometimes my son will whisper something scary and (if it's in the middle of the night) it really gives me the heebie jeebies! Development is wonderful to see though isn't it. Love the idea of the monsters spray! Lucy at occupation: (m)other #bestandworst

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  25. Oh, nothing like a toddler and their imagonations to freak you out. My youngest has a spell when he was about 3 where he would talk about his 'other family' "Not the family with you and daddy, the family where I was the big man daddy and had my own boys and girl..." I dont believe in reincarnation and all that, but still, spooky..... #bestandworst

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  26. A little bit worrying but I'm sure just a stage the girls creep me out sometimes I have to admit thanks for hosting bestandworst

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  27. I can't wait for the role play phase to start, not sure how I'd deal with monsters under the bed though! #bestandworst

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  28. I think a lot of kids go through this stage, don't they? There seem to be two opposing camps on addressing it - those who think you should tell them such things are not real, and those who think the imagination it shows is important (& they will continue to believe anyway) so you should play along and introduce imaginary protectors to get rid of the monsters. I can see both arguments, but I think will probably be more inclined to the latter for little kids. #bestandworst

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  29. Love the idea of monster spray, think I'll be using that one when my daughter goes through this stage! I think its wonderful to see their imaginations developing, although slightly spooky at times! #bestandworst

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  30. Ah! Oh my word that's like the beginning of a horror movie. And clearly I have to stop watching them, it's not good for me. We're not at monsters yet and just starting down the role play road which I love. I'm less in love with having a variety of plastic toys dunked in my dinner as they 'eat' but hey ho. Good luck with the monster spray. Vacuums are good at sucking up any monster remnants too I hear :-)

    Thanks for hosting #bestandworst

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  31. This sounds very familiar! My son (2 yrs 9 mnths) has recently really developed his imagination and with it we have talk of being scared of monsters in his room. Thankfully we're so far able to reassure him daily easily (tough wood) but in my head I keep wondering if he is seeing a ghost that I can't see lol! Pretty sure it's just their imaginations in reality though :-D #bestandworst

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  32. Finley has started with the whole monster thing and I try to say there's no such things as monsters but as you said it's their imagination. I think it will only become a problem if he starts to get scared of these 'monsters' #bestandworst xx

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  33. I think all children go through this stage. We used to encourage the Tubblet to remember that she was a big strong girl and more than a match for any monsters. That may or may not work for you :)

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  34. We had ' can a vulture come down and get me' from our now 7 year old the other day!! whatttttt xxxxx

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  35. Aw he sounds adorable! My daughter is 13 months and is coming on so much now, but it must be lovely at this age when you can have such fun and role play. Sounds like he has a great imagination #bestandworst x

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  36. awwwww surely there should be a cartoon that shows how friendly all these monsters are as I'm sure I've heard of other little ones having similar stages. Hope it's over quickly and they become fun monsters!! #bestandworst

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  37. Our house was built new and luckily I haven't had any of my kids say that they "see" something. Have you researched the history of your house? I would be a bit freaked out as well since I do believe in the super natural...especially after seeing "The Conjuring" and then following up with the history behind it. My husband thinks I am coo coo but I know too many people who have experienced things. Maybe try burning some sage? Hopefully it's just his imagination. Thanks for hostessing #bestandworst.

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