What's Knocking your Confidence?

{Collaborative} Ah, confidence. It’s oh so important for our happiness and overall well-being, yet also so elusive. We can feel on top of the world some days, and then, during others, feel like we’re on the lowest rung of the ladder. While it’s important to do things that’ll push your confidence and maintain relationships it’s always worth keeping an eye on the things in your life that might have a negative impact. Surrounding ourselves with loved ones can help build our confidence. We can gain confidence by attracting the opposite sex to make us feel good about ourselves, as when we feel loved, we feel good and we can even use pheromones to further attract the opposite sex...... but what are pheromones ? Below, we also take a look at a few things that have been known to decrease a person’s confidence level.

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Your Job

We all need to work to make a living; that’s just the way the world is, we're afraid. While you’ll always be grateful for the paycheck, there are aspects of our jobs that can have a negative impact on our confidence. If you don’t like your job or you’re not proud to tell people what you do, then you’ll be hitting your confidence virtually every day. The secret about work is that it should be enjoyable and fulfilling. Rightly or wrongly, we tie so much of our identity to what we do for a living. If you’re not finding any positive meaning in your work, then look at changing your job, or setting up a side-project that will allow you to express yourself fully.

Receiving Criticism

Some people seem to be born with natural confidence; it just seems to be in their inner being. But for most people, their confidence is conditional, and it can be easily knocked. Nobody likes to receive criticism or to be mocked, but some people hear things constructively, others last out, and others take things to heart. It’s worthwhile building up that fortress of confidence so that you withstand the harsh words of other people. Remember, it’s just their opinion, it doesn’t mean anything -- and it nearly always says more about them than it does about you.

Appearance Matters

Everyone can relate to the confidence that they feel when they step out of their home, knowing that they look fantastic. But similarly, we can all relate to the dip in confidence when we just don’t look our best. If that feeling goes on too long, then we’ll need to do something to get our confidence up. Fortunately, there are always things that we can do! If you don’t like your hair, visit a hairdresser, and get it professionally styled. If you don’t like your smile, then work with a dentist to get one that you do. There are shops for clothes, gyms for the physique. You can always do things!

Comparing Yourself to Others

Perhaps the biggest cause of low-confidence is comparing ourselves to others. We take other people’s highlights, and compare them to our lowlights. But here’s the thing: virtually everyone does this! So that should tell you that it’s probably just your mind playing tricks on you. Just focus on yourself, not other people, and you’ll see that your confidence and happiness both shoot up. Comparison really is the thief of joy.