Monday 4 September 2017

I Love You But....

I love you but........


  • You're exhausting
  • You're demanding
  • You are crazy
  • Can I have some of what you guys run on......... please?


The end of Summer holidays is nigh, how did that happen? I'm not going to lie I've found it tough having 2 monsters darlings to entertain on my days off. Individually they are great, together they are a force to be reckoned with. Sibling bickering fighting has well and truly started and the house is just noisy and hectic. When Alfie is at school my little routine with Elarna works, I get jobs done, we play together and I get errands run and then we pick Alfie up and have family time, it's a good balance. It's nice to have one on one time with Elarna but I have to be honest I do miss not having that time with just Alfie every now and again. Both of them individually are so very different.

They're great kids, I like to think we're bringing them up well, we try very hard to make sure they're polite, respectful and happy children but as I'm finding more and more on a daily basis Alfie is as Alfie does and Elarna tends to follow and even she's starting to develop her own naughty ways.



The thing is with Alf he likes routine, it does him good. For him to suddenly not be at school for 6 weeks I feel things have slipped with his behaviour somewhat. He's clearly like his Mama, I love routine! I find we end in a vicious circle of not listening, me losing my shit patience and then us all getting stressed. We cuddle and then it starts again. Mix Elarna into this and we have a potent mixture. 


I find Alfie gets the rough end of the deal sometimes. He tends to get the blame for alot of things, I don't mean to do it but I guess I assume he's being the naughty one and I shouldn't do that as I'm finding that more often than not it's Elarna testing the boundaries and full on winding Alfie up. Although, Alfie isn't perfect, he can be a sneaky little so and so and can be quite mean to his little sister at times. I have to have eyes in the back of my head, they are a cheeky pair and often found causing trouble together. 



We're at this stage with them both at the moment where that sibling rivalry and disagreement is in full force. Being an only child I'm not accustomed to this, my husband is one of 3 and is well aware of sibling troubles. We're getting alot of 'I'm older than you', 'I've got more toys than you', 'I'm taller than you' from Alfie and although Elarna doesn't really get it at the moment we do have to remind Alfie that she's his little sister and younger than him so to be nice. 

So my darlings. I love you both so very much but I'll be glad to get back to the routine we had......perhaps I'll be able to get some jobs done and my stress levels will be back to how they were!

Anyone else know where I'm coming from?

10 comments:

  1. Going back to school will relieve his anxiety and hopefully yours too! #MMBC

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  2. It really is lovely when you get one-on-one time with them isn't it? It feels so damn easy!!!
    I'm not at the stage where either of mine are at school yet but on days when I have them both mine do exactly this. There's a hell of a lot of attention seeking going on from both which will invariably end up being in the form of sibling antagonization. Sigh.
    Like your husband, I am one of 3 and can see the exact frustrations playing out that I used to feel. Thankfully I absolutely adore my siblings now so hopefully that will the case before you know it #twinklytuesday

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  3. It really is lovely when you get one-on-one time with them isn't it? It feels so damn easy!!!
    I'm not at the stage where either of mine are at school yet but on days when I have them both mine do exactly this. There's a hell of a lot of attention seeking going on from both which will invariably end up being in the form of sibling antagonization. Sigh.
    Like your husband, I am one of 3 and can see the exact frustrations playing out that I used to feel. Thankfully I absolutely adore my siblings now so hopefully that will the case before you know it #twinklytuesday

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  4. It us lovely having them but it us totally exhausting with no break. Thank goodness for going back to school X #mmbc

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  5. I'll admit it to, by the last week of summer I was all done and ready for school #twinklytuesday

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  6. My kids are a little older and things have been easier. the biggest problem I've had is to get them to quite their screen and do something else. If I wanted a quiet life all I'd have to do is sit them down with a laptop and I wouldn't hear a peep for hours! Of course, naughty mummy has restricted times and forced them off their backsides too many times this summer and they'll be glad to go back to school to get away from me ;)

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  7. I'm with you kids are demanding exhausting but strangely we love them so much great read Helen x Thank you for linking to #ThatFridayLinky Please come back next week

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  8. Haha! It's hard going isn't it?! I home-school and work from home so there's no getting away from it for me. I have just learned to embrace the madness. If you can't beat them, join them! :)

    Thanks for sharing with #MMBC. Hope to see you Monday x

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  9. God yes! We've only just started the school journey here and he's home in the afternoons. He's so tired he's been a ruddy nightmare at times!! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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  10. I always have really mixed feelings about the end of the summer holidays and back to school and routine. In some ways we all need it, but then I'm always sad to say goodbye to floaty carefree days and no school run. #ThatFridayLinky

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